I'm getting tired of being accused of rigidity and divisiveness--even if it's not a simple case of projection

Any Latin scholars passing through, I invite your corrections, for I looked this up on some Internet-based robo-translator I'd never heard of before.  

I'd like to get this phrase into more widespread use:

“Si non esset, non tibi."  

I call it the“If it weren’t for you” fallacy.  It's the solipsistic idea that everything would be fine if everybody just did what I wanted, mostly because what I want is what matters, problems only arise from the uppitiness of other people, and not because I honestly analyzed my positions and objectively determined they were closest to the truth.